This bug was introduced by a recent change in which readQueryFromClient
is using freeClientAsync, and despite the fact that now
freeClientsInAsyncFreeQueue is in beforeSleep, that's not enough since
it's not called during loading in processEventsWhileBlocked.
furthermore, afterSleep was called in that case but beforeSleep wasn't.
This bug also caused slowness sine the level-triggered mode of epoll
kept signaling these connections as readable causing us to keep doing
connRead again and again for ll of these, which keep accumulating.
now both before and after sleep are called, but not all of their actions
are performed during loading, some are only reserved for the main loop.
fixes issue #7215
b1913ae504