misc:
- handle SSL_has_pending by iterating though these in beforeSleep, and setting timeout of 0 to aeProcessEvents
- fix issue with epoll signaling EPOLLHUP and EPOLLERR only to the write handlers. (needed to detect the rdb pipe was closed)
- add key-load-delay config for testing
- trim connShutdown which is no longer needed
- rioFdsetWrite -> rioFdWrite - simplified since there's no longer need to write to multiple FDs
- don't detect rdb child exited (don't call wait3) until we detect the pipe is closed
- Cleanup bad optimization from rio.c, add another one
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